Three sets of 12 questions designed to create closeness. Take turns answering. Recommended: 45 minutes with no distractions.
What each set asks
100 of 300 questions in order. Every set asks for a little more than the one before it. 18+.
Set I — Exploring desires
4 cards- What's the dirtiest sexual fantasy you've never told anyone about?
- If you could have sex with any celebrity, who would it be and what would you do?
- What's the most embarrassing thing that's ever turned you on?
- Describe your perfect sexual encounter from start to finish.
4 of 12 shown — the rest are in the game above.
Set II — Intimate confessions
4 cards- If you could know one secret about your partner's sexual past, what would it be?
- What's a sexual act you've always wanted to try but haven't had the courage?
- What's the most erotic dream you've had about your partner?
- What do you value most in a sexual partner?
4 of 12 shown — the rest are in the game above.
Set III — Ultimate intimacy
4 cards- Make three true 'we' statements about our sex life. For instance, 'We both love it when...'
- Complete this sentence: 'I wish I had someone with whom I could explore...'
- If you were going to become a sexual soulmate with your partner, what would be important for them to know about your desires?
- Tell your partner what you find most sexually attractive about them; be very explicit this time.
4 of 12 shown — the rest are in the game above.
Set IV — Deep physical connection
4 cards- What's the most intense physical sensation you've ever felt during sex?
- Describe the feeling when your partner first enters you.
- What's your favorite way to be touched when you're most aroused?
- How does your body react when you're about to orgasm?
4 of 12 shown — the rest are in the game above.
Set V — Exploring boundaries
4 cards- What's a sexual boundary you've never crossed but are curious about?
- Describe a sexual experience that pushed your comfort zone.
- What's something you've always wanted to try but felt nervous about?
- How do you feel about experimenting with different sensations?
4 of 12 shown — the rest are in the game above.
Set VI — Raw passion
4 cards- What's the most passionate kiss you've ever experienced?
- Describe a moment when desire completely overwhelmed you.
- What's your wildest sexual impulse?
- How do you express raw sexual energy?
4 of 12 shown — the rest are in the game above.
Set VII — Sensual exploration
4 cards- What's the most erotic texture you've felt on skin?
- Describe how different temperatures affect your arousal.
- What's your favorite way to use your hands during sex?
- How does scent contribute to your sexual experiences?
4 of 12 shown — the rest are in the game above.
Set VIII — Emotional intensity
4 cards- What's the most vulnerable you've felt during sex?
- Describe an emotional climax that matched your physical one.
- What's the deepest emotional connection you've felt while intimate?
- How do emotions heighten your physical pleasure?
4 of 12 shown — the rest are in the game above.
Set IX — Fantasy and imagination
4 cards- What's your most recurring sexual fantasy?
- Describe a sexual scenario from your dreams.
- What's a fantasy character you'd want to role-play?
- How do your fantasies differ from reality?
4 of 12 shown — the rest are in the game above.
Set X — Physical extremes
4 cards- What's the most physically demanding sexual position you've tried?
- Describe pushing your body to its limits during sex.
- What's the longest sexual session you've had?
- How does physical exertion affect your pleasure?
4 of 12 shown — the rest are in the game above.
Set XI — Sensory overload
4 cards- What's the most overwhelming sensory experience during sex?
- Describe all five senses being stimulated at once.
- What's your reaction to multiple sensations simultaneously?
- How does sensory deprivation heighten your awareness?
4 of 12 shown — the rest are in the game above.
Set XII — Ultimate connection
4 cards- What's the most connected you've ever felt to a partner?
- Describe a sexual experience that felt like merging souls.
- What's the deepest level of intimacy you've achieved?
- How do you feel completely united with your partner?
4 of 12 shown — the rest are in the game above.
Set XIII — Fantasy confessions
4 cards- What is the first sexual fantasy you remember having, and does it still work on you?
- Which fantasy have you had about me this week that you did not mention?
- What is the fantasy you would be most embarrassed for your friends to know?
- Have you ever come thinking about someone we both know? Say who.
4 of 12 shown — the rest are in the game above.
Set XIV — Imagine if
4 cards- Imagine I walked in wearing a mask and said nothing. What would you do in the first minute?
- Imagine we were strangers at a hotel bar tonight. What is your name, and what do you order?
- Imagine I tied your wrists to the headboard and left the room. How long before you called out?
- Imagine a third person in this bed right now. Where are their hands?
4 of 12 shown — the rest are in the game above.
Set XV — Would you try
4 cards- Would you try a threesome with two women, and what would make it a yes?
- Would two men and you ever get past the talking stage, and what would tip it?
- Would you kiss another couple in our living room with clothes on, and would you want it to happen twice?
- Would you try being spanked until you counted out loud?
4 of 12 shown — the rest are in the game above.
Set XVI — Roleplay and characters
4 cards- Which role would you want first: the boss, the employee, or the one who walks in on them?
- If I were your bodyguard, what rule would you make me break?
- If you were the doctor, how would the examination go, and how thorough is thorough?
- What would a teacher have to say to keep you after class?
4 of 12 shown — the rest are in the game above.
Set XVII — Power and surrender
4 cards- When I give you an order, what is the exact moment you decide to obey?
- Do you want to kneel, or be knelt for, and does the answer change with the day you have had?
- What is the filthiest name you want to be called, and what do you need to hear straight after?
- Would you rather be praised while I use you, or used while you praise me?
4 of 12 shown — the rest are in the game above.
Set XVIII — Places and settings
4 cards- Where in this home have you imagined being taken from behind, and why that spot?
- What would you want to happen in a lift between the ground floor and the top?
- Have you ever wanted my hand under the table at a dinner with friends? Which dinner?
- What is your fantasy about a car, and is it parked or moving?
4 of 12 shown — the rest are in the game above.
Set XIX — Watching and being watched
4 cards- What is it about being watched that turns you on: the risk, the attention, or the control?
- Would you rather I watched you with someone, or someone watched you with me?
- If I sat in the corner and only watched you touch yourself, what would you want me to say?
- Have you ever left the curtains open on purpose? Tell me about the night.
4 of 12 shown — the rest are in the game above.
Set XX — Three, four, more
4 cards- Describe the stranger you would want as our third: how we meet them, and how the night starts.
- In a threesome, do you want to be the centre, the director, or the one who watches most?
- What would the first rule be, and who says stop?
- In a foursome, who do you reach for first, and is it me?
4 of 12 shown — the rest are in the game above.
Set XXI — Swapping and sharing
4 cards- If I shared you with a friend for an evening, what would you want them told about you first?
- What would a hotwife night actually look like, from the front door to the taxi home?
- Would you want to watch me kiss someone else at a bar, and would you want them to know you were watching?
- What would you want to hear from me before you went into another room with someone else?
4 of 12 shown — the rest are in the game above.
Set XXII — Costumes and uniforms
4 cards- Which uniform on me would make you forget your own name?
- If I dressed you for a whole day, underwear included, what would you hope I chose?
- At a masked party, what would tell me it was you across the room, and how would you want to be found?
- If you put on my shirt and nothing else, what would you want me to do about it?
4 of 12 shown — the rest are in the game above.
Set XXIII — Bucket list
4 cards- What is number one on your sexual bucket list, and what has stopped us?
- Which fantasy do you want to try once and then lock away forever?
- If we had a year of firsts, one a month, what would you want in month one?
- What is the trip you would plan around a single fantasy?
4 of 12 shown — the rest are in the game above.
Set XXIV — Experiments
4 cards- If only mouths were allowed for an hour, where would you start on me?
- Would you rather I stopped just before, or kept going just after?
- Which would you want first on your skin: a feather, ice, wax, or my teeth?
- What would you want me to do with a blindfold on you that you would never allow with it off?
4 of 12 shown — the rest are in the game above.
Set XXV — Preferences and limits
4 cards- What is a hard limit you have that you have never said out loud?
- Which of my fantasies do you suspect is really yours too?
- What do you need to feel safe enough to try anything on this list?
- Would you rather I forgot a fantasy you told me, or brought it up a year later?
4 of 12 shown — the rest are in the game above.
Arthur Aron's study paired the questions with four minutes of unbroken eye contact at the end. Most couples find that harder than any of the questions.
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