Three sets of 12 questions designed to create closeness. Take turns answering. Recommended: 45 minutes with no distractions.
What each set asks
48 of 144 questions in order. Every set asks for a little more than the one before it. 18+.
Set I — Exploring desires
4 cards- What's the dirtiest sexual fantasy you've never told anyone about?
- If you could have sex with any celebrity, who would it be and what would you do?
- What's the most embarrassing thing that's ever turned you on?
- Describe your perfect sexual encounter from start to finish.
4 of 12 shown — the rest are in the game above.
Set II — Intimate confessions
4 cards- If you could know one secret about your partner's sexual past, what would it be?
- What's a sexual act you've always wanted to try but haven't had the courage?
- What's the most erotic dream you've had about your partner?
- What do you value most in a sexual partner?
4 of 12 shown — the rest are in the game above.
Set III — Ultimate intimacy
4 cards- Make three true 'we' statements about our sex life. For instance, 'We both love it when...'
- Complete this sentence: 'I wish I had someone with whom I could explore...'
- If you were going to become a sexual soulmate with your partner, what would be important for them to know about your desires?
- Tell your partner what you find most sexually attractive about them; be very explicit this time.
4 of 12 shown — the rest are in the game above.
Set IV — Deep physical connection
4 cards- What's the most intense physical sensation you've ever felt during sex?
- Describe the feeling when your partner first enters you.
- What's your favorite way to be touched when you're most aroused?
- How does your body react when you're about to orgasm?
4 of 12 shown — the rest are in the game above.
Set V — Exploring boundaries
4 cards- What's a sexual boundary you've never crossed but are curious about?
- Describe a sexual experience that pushed your comfort zone.
- What's something you've always wanted to try but felt nervous about?
- How do you feel about experimenting with different sensations?
4 of 12 shown — the rest are in the game above.
Set VI — Raw passion
4 cards- What's the most passionate kiss you've ever experienced?
- Describe a moment when desire completely overwhelmed you.
- What's your wildest sexual impulse?
- How do you express raw sexual energy?
4 of 12 shown — the rest are in the game above.
Set VII — Sensual exploration
4 cards- What's the most erotic texture you've felt on skin?
- Describe how different temperatures affect your arousal.
- What's your favorite way to use your hands during sex?
- How does scent contribute to your sexual experiences?
4 of 12 shown — the rest are in the game above.
Set VIII — Emotional intensity
4 cards- What's the most vulnerable you've felt during sex?
- Describe an emotional climax that matched your physical one.
- What's the deepest emotional connection you've felt while intimate?
- How do emotions heighten your physical pleasure?
4 of 12 shown — the rest are in the game above.
Set IX — Fantasy and imagination
4 cards- What's your most recurring sexual fantasy?
- Describe a sexual scenario from your dreams.
- What's a fantasy character you'd want to role-play?
- How do your fantasies differ from reality?
4 of 12 shown — the rest are in the game above.
Set X — Physical extremes
4 cards- What's the most physically demanding sexual position you've tried?
- Describe pushing your body to its limits during sex.
- What's the longest sexual session you've had?
- How does physical exertion affect your pleasure?
4 of 12 shown — the rest are in the game above.
Set XI — Sensory overload
4 cards- What's the most overwhelming sensory experience during sex?
- Describe all five senses being stimulated at once.
- What's your reaction to multiple sensations simultaneously?
- How does sensory deprivation heighten your awareness?
4 of 12 shown — the rest are in the game above.
Set XII — Ultimate connection
4 cards- What's the most connected you've ever felt to a partner?
- Describe a sexual experience that felt like merging souls.
- What's the deepest level of intimacy you've achieved?
- How do you feel completely united with your partner?
4 of 12 shown — the rest are in the game above.
Arthur Aron's study paired the questions with four minutes of unbroken eye contact at the end. Most couples find that harder than any of the questions.
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